Friends, battles and comfort zones

It’s Monday night, and I’m lying on my couch with a glass of wine, thinking about the week past and planning for the week to come. It’s hard to believe that Emily turns one next Monday, and we’re celebrating this weekend – where did that year go? I can definitely tell you, hand on my heart, that even twelve months ago, I never expected my life would look like this right now.

My last blog post was over two weeks ago and I wrote about shit storms and how everything seems to happen at once. I’ve spent the past fortnight just taking things in my stride, digesting what the universe is throwing at me and knowing that I am becoming stronger and stronger, day by day.

One thought I keep coming back to is the power of true friendships. Since Emily’s birth, some of the most amazing, deep and even surprising friendships have sprung out of nowhere. Some friendships have strengthened beyond my imagination. And other friendships have waned. I’ve even had people stop talking to me full stop. And that’s ok – they must have their own reasons. And I get to fill that empty space with more, even greater and fulfilling friendships.

Another thought that pops into my mind is that little quote that we all see on Facebook now and then, about people’s silent struggles. This one:

When you judge another, you do not define them. You define yourself.

When you judge another, you do not define them. You define yourself.

Everyone has private battles going on. I sure do. Personally, right now where i’m at with my life, the universe is really stretching me right now. And boy, it hurts. The upside is, my comfort zone is expanding WAAAAYYYY outwards, and I love that about myself and take pride in my growth. But that doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt any less.

To the friends and family who are here, active and playing a huge support role for me – I see you. I acknowledge you. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. And I can’t wait to celebrate my little girl’s birthday with you this Saturday. Being a single parent to a 12 month old is tough. And running a growing business at the same time adds more hurdles. But not only am I doing it, I am mastering it. Beautifully. And that reflects in the happy and bubbly girl in my life.

To the amazing women I have met through writing this blog and sharing my journey as a solo parent – I acknowledge you. I have made some life-long friendships with women who have read my blog and reached out to me via Instagram or Facebook. This fills me with so much joy, just to know that by sharing my story I am helping someone else feel less alone and more confident in themselves. WE CAN DO THIS! We can do whatever we set our minds to.

To the people who have left. Without so much as a “goodbye” or to check in to see how I’m doing. I also acknowledge you. I see you. That’s your decision. I will always offer and give friendship wheverever I go, and if you choose to embrace me once again, I will call you friend. But if you don’t, that’s ok. That means more space for stronger friendships and a stronger support network – exactly what I will be teaching my little girl to build for herself. Some great life lessons I am already passing down to her. And this makes me smile with gratitude – so I thank you also, for this opportunity and for being you.


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